Mistaken for a Prostitute in Manzini, Swaziland

The knocks, persistent and aggressive, shook the narrow door. "Girls, are you in there?"

Slowly, the voice registered. Springing upright in our beds, Tamika turned off the television with a quick click of the remote.

"We want to spend some more time with you, go to the clubs, we've got money."

MONEY?!

Wide eyed in hilarity and horror, we covered our mouths to stifle our confused laughter.

Mistaken for a Prostitute in Manzini, Swaziland....

It had all began innocently enough.

On a two week break from teaching in Inhambane, Mozambique, we were finally free to explore. After five months in our charming rural outpost, we were ready to see what else the country and its surrounding areas had to offer.

Our journey began in Mozambique's capital Maputu. After a few days visiting with friends and taking in the sights and excitement of the big city, we were ready to move onwards and see a new country.

South Africa, we couldn't afford on our miniscule teacher's salary, but Swaziland- The Kingdom of Swaziland (to be exact), was a short bus ride from Maputu and was a much cheaper option.

Without any real plan, we gathered our backpacks and made our way to the large central bus terminal in Maputu in search of a Manzini bound bus.

What was in Manzini, we didn't really know, but it was the second largest city outside of the capital, leading us to believe there would be plenty to experience.

Where we would stay and what exactly we would do, we had yet to decide. We only knew that we wanted to go. We'd met plenty of backpackers in Inhambane who had come through Swaziland and they had loved it. We'd traveled easily around Inhambane, Vilankulo, and Maputo in Mozambique without plan or purpose and had a wonderful time taking everything in as each city revealed itself to us. We spent a day in Johannesburg, South Africa with the same ease, surely Manzini would also prove to be a beautiful adventure.

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Miles and miles of open terracotta road spread before us. The sky, topaz, illuminated the morning with an ethereal spotlight. As our slow bus huffed along, red clouds surrounded us, leaving their mark on the windows, until the world became a charming blur of red.

Cows, great big fat meaty ones, ambled along the roads and through open fields. Clusters of mud homes appeared and disappeared along the way as we slowly rolled onwards, out of Mozambique and into Swaziland.

It was afternoon when Manzini revealed itself to us, surprisingly crisp, pious and modern in comparison to the fading Portuguese colonial architecture we'd left behind in Mozambique.

Mistaken for a prostitute in Manzini, Swaziland

Near the bus station was a small fruit market. We stopped for a snack before setting off by foot to find accommodation.

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Up and down, purple and pink frangipani studded streets we roamed in search of a hotel, hostel or guest house.

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The first hotel we approached was too expensive, the second had no vacancies, the third, a motel, a bit run-down, owned by a balding and obese pink faced South African was cheap and available.

"You girls are teachers? I'll cut you a discount then," he said with a wink, leading us up a darkened narrow stairwell to the third floor. "I'll let you have this room, one of our best for a reduced price."

The room, a glorified cement box with two twin beds was dark and smelled vaguely of smoke. Tamika and I looked at teach other- wanting to maximize our time to exploring and not looking for housing, we sucked it up and settled our housing dilemma in search of adventure.

After changing and washing our red dirt caked faces, we walked the quiet streets in search of food and something to do.

Wanting to get a better sense of this Kingdom called Swaziland, we asked around for tips on where to find good local food. We were consistently directed towards Nando's Chicken, a Mozambican inspired South African food chain, which delicious in its own right, didn't give us  the opportunity we wanted to experience the cuisine of Swaziland.

Eventually, we made our way to a nice hotel, which boasted a delicious, though not quite local menu. Hungry, tired, and in agreement that it was a step up from Nando's we decided to give it a try.

We were seated at a large table, next to a pool with a floating ice sculpture. After months of teaching in the Mozambican rural bush, it actually felt exotic to be in a gaudy air conditioned hotel.

Short on cash, we prioritized, ordering mixed drinks and an array of appetizers to share.

"You were on the bus out of Maputo."

Two well dressed Indian men appeared next to our table.

"Yes?" I agreed confused.

Had we met them somewhere on our travels?

"We were on the bus too. Do you mind if we join you?"

"Sure." For lack of a better excuse and perhaps because I was traveling and so were they, I motioned for them to have a seat.

More drinks and appetizers were ordered. They were South African, from Durban, both worked in IT and were in Manzini for the weekend, to get away. They came relatively often and promised to show us some clubs if we were interested.

After a long and lazy dinner, they walked us around the quiet and pristine city- pointing out the few points of interest and hot-spots along the way.

Everybody tried to get us to go to Nandos. It was as if it were the only option for food in all of Manzini.

This mall was interesting, merely because we hadn't seen a mall in months. There was nothing special about it that said- Yay, I'm in Swaziland however :/

It was clear that we had entered a much more conservative space than Mozambique

Mistaken for a prostitute in Manzini, Swaziland

Small, neat little markets popped up along the sides of roads. Unlike in Mozambique where the good were out in the open, the goods were wrapped in plastic.

 

 

 

 

"Why do you choose to come to Manzini?" Tamika asked. "Aren't there plenty of getaway places in South Africa? There doesn't seem to be much here."

It was true. Outside of the ubiquitous white walled church buildings and Nando's establishments, aside from a lovely mall and the odd market here and there, Manzini didn't seem to have much going for it as far as personality.

"It's nice to get out of the country," the taller one said, we accepted it, and moved on.

We went to a small lounge, had some more drinks while seated in lawn chairs outside so we could admire the stars.

Drinking and chatting with our new friends, we talked about life in the U.S. and life in South Africa. We talked about our jobs in Mozambique and about other countries we'd visited. It was nice, but they wanted to club-hop and we wanted to walk around and explore. Having already disclosed the name of the motel where we were staying, and having taken their cell phone numbers, we agreed to send them a text if we still wanted to hang out later.

Manzini's streets were quiet. The presence of street lamps made everything appear bright and safe. We walked up and down hills, admiring the quiet night, comparing the architecture to Inhambane's, noting the ubiquitous nature of white walled Anglican churches. A few hours across the border and we were in a different world. We traded Portuguese for our native English, we traded laid back friendliness for conservative stern faces, we traded Catholic churches, mosques and Hindu temples, for Anglican church buildings with signs warning of the deep sins of the unfaithful, and we traded in soft sandy roads, for pavement.

Then we met Paul. He was seated on an overturned white bucket outside a local club. He called out to us as we passed, we stopped, he introduced himself, we introduced ourselves and began chatting.  Originally from Zimbabwe, Paul had been in Swaziland, for the last few years and was supporting himself as an artist.

"Swaziland is cool man. Very peaceful. It's easier to live here than in South Africa. You just have to watch out for prostitutes and gangs."

Gangs? Prostitutes?

"I don't understand," I said, "it seems really calm and safe here. It's really quiet."

"Yeah, it's cool man, like I say, but there's a lot of prostitutes around here. You girls need to be careful. You don't want somebody to mistake you this time of night because if they ask for your services and you refuse, they can get violent."

"We don't look like prostitutes."

"No, but the only women walking around at this hour here in Manzini are usually prostitutes. Just be watchful as you make your way home."

Now that he mentioned it, we hadn't passed any other women as we rambled. I hadn't thought much of it before, but we were the only women walking the streets, minus a scantily clad group standing near the entrance of the clubs.

"And what about the gangs? Is there a gang problem here?"

"Well no, but yes. There is a lot of organized crime. The Chinese man, they run the prostitution. They pull girls from all over South Africa, Mozambique,  Zimbabwe, and they run them through here. You got them and some others running around and they can be a problem for girls like yourselves. I'm not trying to scare you, but you should know."

We said goodbye to Paul and walk/ran back to our hotel.

 

After chatting with the South African owner, who sat behind a desk near the entrance, we made our way up the dark stairwell, into our dimly lit cement box.

Tamika searched through the television static attempting to find a channel or show that could be both understood and seen clearly. Eventually we settled on the BBC News, which was fine with us, since we hadn't seen the world news for months.

No sooner had we settled into the broadcast, than the knocks were heard at the door.

 

Sitting now, with our hands over our mouths, Tamika hopped over to my bed.

"They think we're prostitutes!" she whispered

"You locked the door?"

She nodded.

"Turn off the lights. They'll go away." I suggested

And eventually, after spending a portion of the night in darkness, they did.

 

 

 

 

Lion Hunt at the Bronx Zoo!

"No. That way!" My two and a half year old, perched in his enormous stroller, finger pointed to the left, went into full mini-dictator mode. "Push mama, push!"

Up a steep hill, panting, six months pregnant, I forged forth. What could I do? We were on a lion hunt at the Bronx Zoo.

In part three of my Bronx exploration, I hopped in my car and headed north, to the largest urban zoo in America.

The Bronx Zoo is massive. It is massive and it is hilly. Map in hand, I wound my way towards the African Mammal exhibit- home of the lions.

For weeks Ohm had been practicing his roar. He was ready to see some lions and I was ready to deliver. We entered through the African Wild Dog section, a blustery fifty degree day, the dogs were not out.

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Not to worry I told myself, surely there will be lions. Who has ever heard of a zoo without lions? We took our hunt onwards. Still as statues, the giraffes called out to each other with their bizarre voices- somewhat of a cross between a scream, a moan and a honk.

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"Where did the lions go mama?" Despite the great distractions, panic was in the air- I couldn't find the lions. The lion exhibit was empty. Surely they had to be in an indoor exhibit I told myself. If I were a lion, where would I be?

We took our hunt in the direction of the gorilla exhibit. On our way, we saw...

brown bear

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Pink Flamingos Bronx Zoo

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After two and a half hours of searching and coming up empty, our lion hunt had come to an end.

I have to admit, it was a bit disappointing. The Bronx Zoo, claims the title of being the largest urban zoo in America and at $25.00 for an adult ticket (3 and under are free), it would have been nice to see some more animals. Most of the exhibits were empty. Wednesdays I am told are free days, I think I will have to resume the lion hunt during the summer on a Wednesday.

In the meantime Ohm is practicing his roar.

 

An Orchid Grows in the Bronx

20140308-215124.jpg Today, in New York, the sun finally came out. People took to the streets grinning, shedding layer after layer as the temperature climbed to a whopping 58 degrees. It was a miraculous gift of a day and I took the opportunity to jump in the car, roll down the windows and continue my exploration of the Bronx by visiting the New York Botanical Gardens.

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DIY Floral Facial Toner

I love the refreshing feel of this DIY Floral Facial Toner! That little burst of cooling aromatherapy sets my morning and evening into ritualistic action. I know there's a lot of controversy over toner, whether it's necessary, what it's actual benefits are, but I still don't go a morning or evening without it. I love the soft dewy feel of my skin and swear my pores are tighter.

This is my go-to toner recipe. It's delicate and moisturizing and smells oh, so delectable.

Here's what you'll need:

1⁄2 part Rosewater

1⁄2 part Witch Hazel

5  Drops Lavender Essential Oil

 

Here's what you do:

Combine the rosewater and witch hazel into a (preferably glass) spray pump container. I eyeball my measurements based on the container I'm using.

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20140309-145904.jpg During the summer months, I section off half of this mixture and place it in another spray bottle, which I keep in the refrigerator. After a long humid day, it feels wonderful to come home to this cooling and fragrant spritz.

 

Keeping the Dream Alive at the New York Times Travel Show!

20140307-221420.jpg The dancers and violinist swirled around us in a frenzy of bright colors and bows. The Hungarian folk music was infectious. Instantly caught up in their spell, I was clapping and grinning to the buoyant tune.

Around the next corner, we ran into a performance by a troupe of Malaysian dancers. Delicately they gestured and dipped in time, a troupe of colorful goddess-like creatures. It was beautiful to watch.

Down the aisle, we had the pleasure of tasting a peanut brittle like candy from the Dominican Republic. It was addicting and we were soon circling the stand for seconds, thirds, fourths...

Around another corner, a group of Cuban musicians drummed and sang traditional songs near a stand with samples of Vermont's finest cheddar cheese.

Where was I? At times it was hard for me to remember.

There was a wonderful swirl of accents, sounds and flavors in the air!

Salsa dancers take a bow after their performance.

Live food demonstrations from chefs around the world. This was an Israeli food demo. Smelled so lemony and tangy.

Hungarian folk dancers and musicians

Malaysian traditional dancers

More salsa

Caribbean dance

Hmmm... Now where might I don this fancy situation?

Ohm was very excited about this mural in the South Africa aisle.

Held this year at the Jacob Javits Center in New York, the New York Times Travel Show was a spectacular event, featuring the food, song, dance, rhythms and beauty of hundreds of sought after destinations across the globe.

An annual event, the Travel Show brings together artist, crafts-people, travel insiders, airlines, resorts, boutique hotels, spas and tourist bureaus from across the world to feature the best their regions have to offer.

There are prizes and giveaways, but best of all, you have a first hand pass to destination information around the world.

If you love travel, this is the gathering place for you!

Interested in a Gorilla expedition to Rwanda? At the travel show, you have the opportunity to speak with local experts and get ideas for planning your dream trip as well as specific hotel and flight information.

"But I've got a two year old and a baby on the way, they would have to join us, are they allowed on the expedition?"

"No, we don't allow children on the expeditions, but I can tell you about the lodges where babysitters are available."

JACKPOT!

Always wanted to go lobster hunting in Maine? The travel show is the place to speak with Maine experts and learn about the best time to affordably take that trip. Learn where to stay if your also interested in shopping, or bird watching, or sailing, or...

The New York Times Travel Show is the place go to turn your dreams about beautiful places both far away and near into a reality.

The amount of information that I walked away with was wonderful.

The amount of free goodies that I walked away with was exciting.

The number of free trips that I entered to win made me hopeful.

I'm so happy I finally made it!

After five hours, Ohm began to loose it a bit.

My advice for my traveling tot....

 

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3 Tips For Planning Your Next Road Trip

sojo's truck Now that the snow finally appears to be melting, it's time to refresh your senses and take to the road for a quick road trip. The classic road trip is a great way to let go and get lost within the beauty and wonder of your surrounding and neighboring environments.

If you're inspired like I am to get out and explore and take to the road, here are some helpful tips for planning your next road trip:

1) Plan enough time to make regular stops Whether it's Wild Rick's Snake World, the birth place of Abraham Lincoln, or the Grand Canyon, something will catch your attention as you drive so make sure you've allocated enough time in your plans for impromptu stops and mini-explorations.

When I got out in Savannah, Georgia during my last road trip to taste some world famous Pralines, I found myself distracted by the gorgeous cobblestone waterfront. Before I new it, several hours and a hearty meal had passed.  This is what road tripping is all about?

2) Plan your overnight stops in advance

Although it may not seem like a big deal, there's nothing worse than pulling up to a hotel just to be told that there are no vacancies. When it comes to accommodations, it's best to plan in advance.

I try to plan my overnight stays in cities or areas I want to spend time exploring. Overnights can be as fancy as staying at a nice hotel (this is the perfect time to pull out rewards points) or as simple as crashing on someone's couch. I'm a Starwood member and I love using my free hotel points during road trips. It's nice to unwind in a nice hotel after a long day on the road.

There are of course a plethora of lodging options. When I was driving the length of California's coast with a friend in my early twenties, after spending one very dodgy night sleeping in our car at a truck stop (I don't recommend this), we booked two bunks at the Venice beach hostel the second night and spent a good chunk of the day, exploring the beach area. Hostels are a great budget option if you don't mind unwinding with a group of strangers and sharing facilities.

An even more budget friendly accommodation option is Couch Surfing. If you're adventurous, Couch Surfing is free and safe, providing an excellent environment to meet new people, and if you're lucky snag a hot meal or private tour guide.

3) Rent a car

For longer trips, it's usually a good idea to rent a car so you don't run yours into the ground. All of those accumulated miles will damage a car quickly. Besides, it's fun to try out new car varieties as a renter. Always wanted to test drive a Range Rover? Rent one for the weekend. Do you drive a small sedan but want more room for your road trip? Rent a van or SUV (just beware of the increased gas costs) and travel in comfortable style. If you're traveling with a group, you may even want to rent an RV.

For rentals, I like to use Hertz. They've got locations all over the country and their rates are really reasonable.

So there you have it, whether to a big city destination, the secluded mountains or the calming ocean, there's no time like the present to take to the open road!

 

Lavender Deodorant Powder

Conventional deodorants can be harsh, irritating and can contain questionable chemicals (yikes- why am I putting aluminum near my lymph nodes?). Here's a recipe that is gentle and effective, perfect for those with sensitive skin, pregnant or nursing moms, adolescents, or those looking for a healthier chemical free alternative. 20140301-101155.jpg

 

 

 

 

Here's what you'll need:

1 Tablespoon Corn Starch

1 Tablespoon Bentonite Clay

2 Tablespoons Baking Soda

1 Teaspoon Dried Lavender Flowers (crushed to a fine powder)

 

This is what you should do: Combine your corn starch, lavender and baking soda in a wooden, glass or ceramic container (metal deactivates the properties of bentonite). Using a plastic or wooden spoon (not metal), add the bentonite clay. Make sure the mixture is fully blended. Store in a cool dry place and use as needed. I like to fill a muslin tea sachet with the deodorant powder, so that it can be applied easily. A powder puff, cotton balls or your fingers work just as well for application.

Now you have it, a simple deodorant that is gentle, effective, and free of harsh and irritating chemicals.